Just because you are a vet or serving currently

[april004]

That was very thoughtful...but actually my days are no longer difficult. They are quite good. This post I did wasn't meant to be about poor me.....just talking about a jerk on the train.

And yes, most military men I meet are upstanding good guys.

The only guys that hold the door open for me at the gym....former military! Regular college students? No.Sure I was in the military myself....but I am oldfashioned at heart and love when men open doors for me.

I remember once when I was stationed at Fort Bliss when I was in the Army- going to the Px and the guys not opening the doors. Now I didn't expect it but it blew me away when these Marines did it and made me pay attention. There was a barracks full of Marines across from ours. They were doing some joint training at the time with the Army. I remember how different they all seemed.

Army uniforms on guys never did it for me, maybe because I had to wear one myself....but that Marine uniform??? Perfection! Lol.

We Army girls would stare out our windows at the Marines in formation, drooling.

I remember one of the Army guys in our barracks asked why we never looked at him that way...lol.

Anyways, the Marine guys always held the doors for us Army girls and always smiled.

Now that I think back on it....perhaps they weren't doing it to be nice. They just had the art of flirting down much better than my guy peers in the Army.

And we Army girls bought it hook,line and sinker.

The majority of us that year ended up dating the Marines in the other barracks while our Army male companions would wonder why they were left on the weekends scrambling for dates on a base where females were practically nonexistent.

It all started with opening a door and smiling. And trust me...those Marines looked tough, were strong, but boy could they pull out the charm and smile at us. I ended up dating one for two years....all because he opened the door for me and smiled. Looking spiffy in that uniform didn't hurt either. Something about the way they roll up those sleeves....

April004,

I am so very sorry that you have had a difficult time in life. Life is difficult enough, and then we sometimes are dealt another blow from insensitive humans who try leveling as a way to make themselves feel better, at the expense of others. (Those sorry lowdown humans....)

Yes, some are/can/have been looked down on, and sadly they are not the only ones to suffer in that manner. Here is a partial list of others that have been looked down on also;

Disabled people, disfigured people, different races, mentally challenged like Down's syndrome people, deaf people, blind people, old people, young people, lonely people, curly haired people, no haired/bald people, albino people, different races, red haired people, different faces, different circumstances, not in the popular croud, outcasts, nerds, responsible, good guys.

I was not the first person that was insulted, injured, lied to, or betrayed, and felt the pain, and won't be the last. Sadly, it happens in the Best of Families, no matter where we come from, no matter how rich we are, no matter how beautiful/gorgeous we are, no matter how smart we are, no matter how strong we are, no matter how determined we are, and to all of us. The betrayals I felt, completely broke my heart. I was not able to fix it. I had to move on, I had no choice. I didn't like it, I didn't want it, but the truth was in my face. This was the only life I had. So I had to change that. My Choice -

With all due respect to you, and all respect for how difficult you days may be now, please feel some comfort in knowing that "This too shall pass". "There is a time for all things". This is a way/one of many ways life causes us to grow. When we are learning, we are growing, and how does an oak tree become strong? Not by staying the same. You are growing and becoming stronger and taller and more gracious in wisdom of life. Life is going to change us, whether we want it or not. OMG - JAPAN right now. What if we were there? LIFE.

When I change the way I look at things, the things around me change. (Dr. Wayne Dyer, PBS).
When I change the things I focus on, I can do something different. I move, go, change me, and grow, but when it comes down to the nitty gritty, I want you and those hard nosed military soldiers to be hard nosed and brilliant in everything you do, and I will support this.

I want a man, or soldier to be a man and/or soldier. I want a woman to be a good woman and/or soldier. I want a woman to support her man, unless he is a jerk, but still support a soldier. Soldiers and Good women will deal with Jerks. I was always taught that a Military Man had the Best Manners, and always found this to be Impeccably True.

IMHO. Pray for the world right now, because what I want really does not matter, in the big picture, from an older person. There is a reason for federal laws. Life is always changing the circumstances and is always in control of those circumstances minute by minute. Even if it looks really bad, that can change too. Regards,